Admitting What You Really Want

In this solo episode of Creative Space, I’m talking about something so many of us avoid: admitting the goals we’re secretly afraid to want.

Whether it’s moving to a new city, changing careers, or chasing a dream that feels too impractical, it’s easy to stay stuck because we don’t even say it out loud. I share my own experience with this—the years I buried my dream of moving to LA—and how finally admitting it to myself changed everything.

This episode is my invitation to you to pause, reflect, and ask honestly: What am I not letting myself want?

If you’ve been feeling stuck or restless, I hope this episode gives you permission to tell yourself the truth.

And if you're curious about coaching, I’d love to offer you a free 30-minute discovery call to see if coaching might help you take that next step. Book here.

SHOW NOTES:

0:00 — Introduction 
 1:00 — Embracing the “Perfectly Imperfect” New Chapter
 2:15 — The Goals We’re Afraid to Admit
 3:20 — My Story: The Buried Dream of Moving to LA
 5:00 — The Cost of Staying Safe vs. Going After What You Want
 6:15 — An Invitation to Get Honest About Your Own Untouchable Goals
 7:00 — Closing Thoughts

Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome Back to Creative Space
• 1:20 The Untouchable Goals We Hide
• 2:14 My LA Dream Confession
• 4:09 Admitting What You Actually Want
• 5:35 Invitation and Episode Closing

Transcript

Jennifer Logue: 0:10

Hello and welcome back to Creative Space, a podcast where we explore, learn and grow in creativity together. My name is Jennifer Logue and today I just wanted to start by saying thank you for listening to my return episode on Friday. It means the world to me to be back here with you, sharing these stories, these reflections and hopefully giving you something meaningful to think about in your own life. I have to say I love this new chapter of the podcast. It's perfectly imperfect. I'm living out of a suitcase. I don't have my fancy mic. I'm podcasting with's. Perfectly imperfect. I'm living out of a suitcase. I don't have my fancy mic. I'm podcasting with what I have. It's just a lot more fun this way for me, and I hope it is for you too, if you're new here.

Jennifer Logue: 0:53

Apart from hosting this podcast, I'm a creative coach, a writer and all-around explorer of what it means to live a more creative, authentic life. You don't have to be an artist to be creative. By the way, we all are. Creativity is the vehicle I use to get my clients from where they are to where they want to be. At the end of the day, creativity is about choices and your life is the greatest creative project of all. So let's be bold.

Jennifer Logue: 1:20

Today I want to talk about something that's been on my mind a lot lately, and that's the goals. We're afraid to admit we even want the untouchable goals, the goals you won't even say out loud because you're embarrassed by them. The goals that, deep down, you know you should pursue, but they seem too out of reach to even try. So why bother? Right, if I've learned anything in these last few years, it's this. Sometimes the real reason you feel stuck is that you're not even allowing yourself to want what you really want. Deep down, you have a dream to do something or become something, but you don't even give the dream a chance because it's too far-fetched or too silly or too scary or too financially irresponsible, or insert whatever excuse you have that you've been telling yourself. I know this because I've lived it.

Jennifer Logue: 2:14

In Friday's episode, I shared about taking a break from the podcast, stepping away to do some real inner work for myself, and part of that work was about getting honest about a dream I had buried for years, and that's moving to LA. At first I put it off and then eventually, I just wrote it off as being impractical, financially irresponsible, and on and on and on that staying in the house that I bought in Philly was the responsible move. And you know, on paper it was Low interest rates, good investments, stability. But in my heart it felt heavy, a dead end, and the restlessness didn't go away. I always had this low, barely audible buzz of discontent. No matter how well I decorated the house or how social I was, nothing I did, no goal I could achieve, would make up for burying the LA dream. It's wild how easy it is to convince yourself you should want something that feels safe, even if it doesn't let you up at all.

Jennifer Logue: 3:20

When I finally admitted to my coach that I wanted to move to LA, I felt so embarrassed I called it a silly dream. I told him I was too old for that now, that LA was for people pursuing acting careers or some big artsy thing that I didn't even think I was allowed to want at this point in my life. Then he asked me how would you feel at 80 years old if you didn't take that chance? And, as I said on the podcast before, that question hit me like a ton of bricks, because the answer was was obvious I'd really, really regret it. And suddenly the whole inner conflict I was having made sense. I was feeling stuck because, despite all the other goals I was achieving, I wasn't taking action on the one my heart wanted the most.

Jennifer Logue: 4:09

And here's the thing. I see this with my clients all the time. People come to coaching saying they want clarity or they want to get unstuck. They think the way to get unstuck, they think the way to get unstuck is to get more motivated by working with a coach and don't get me wrong, that's definitely part of it. But more often than not, the biggest part of getting unstuck is admitting what it is you actually want, not what your parents want, not what your friends want, not what society says you should want. What you want. It's all about you. This is your life, because once you discover that and say it out loud, that's power. Now we're cooking, but it's up to you to take action and go after it. Even if the goal is absolutely terrifying and yes, I get it Admitting you want something big or different feels risky.

Jennifer Logue: 5:01

It makes you vulnerable. It can threaten the whole life you've built around. Not wanting it around, not pursuing it, but staying stuck in a life you don't love, that's its own kind of risk. So I want to ask you right now is there something you're not letting yourself want? Maybe it's moving to a new city, changing careers, going back to school, writing a book, ending a relationship, starting a YouTube channel, pursuing an acting career at age 50.

Jennifer Logue: 5:36

What's the dream that feels so big or silly or impractical that you're not even willing to say out loud just for a second? Can you admit it to yourself? You don't have to act on it today. You don't have to know how you're going to make it happen. Just be honest with yourself. Tell yourself the truth. That's what coaching did for me. It wasn't about someone giving me the answers. That's not what coaching is about. That's consulting, but that's another video for another day. It was having someone hold up a mirror to me. Call me on my excuses, help me see what I was pretending I didn't want. That's the real work.

Jennifer Logue: 6:14

If this is resonating with you and you're thinking, yeah, I'm really stuck and I can use clarity on how to move forward, I'd love to talk to you. I offer free 30-minute discovery calls to see if working together might help you get clear, get honest and figure out what you really want. No pressure, no salesy weirdness, just a real conversation. You can book your call at the link in the show notes, I'd be honored to chat with you. Anyway, that's all I have for this episode of Creative Space. If you found this helpful, make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss next week's episode, and if you know someone who might need to hear this message, please share it with them. Until next time, keep dreaming, keep exploring and don't be afraid to want what you truly want. Take care, thank you.